I was born to be a mom, born to have rough and tumble, sports playing adventurous kids. Or so I thought. I can’t remember a time when I didn’t want to be a mom. Didn’t want to have a bunch of kids running around. I wanted to be the soccer mom, the softball, and football mom, the band mom. The dreams I had wasn’t a part of God’s plan.
So often we have this ideal scenario in our head about how things will be. How our careers will go, how our marriage will go, how our family will grow and thrive. But what happens if your kid doesn’t fit into that little dream? Or further more what if your kid is the one that is a little bit different than all the other kids? What if your kid is the one who is autistic? OR physically challenge? Mentally challenge? So curious and creative that they are always finding something to get into and unfortunately sometimes get hurt…… What if your kid is the one who other kids look at and are nervous around? What if your kid is the one who has a reputation that reaches their teachers long before they do? What if…….?
Unfortunately in our society we are expected to have our children fit in this little tiny box of conforming to “the norm” of society, and if our kid doesn’t fit that box, where does that leave us? When someone has something to say about your child’s behavior, or the way you parent doesn’t momma bear come out? It certainly does for me. I truly get enraged when I see or hear other parents talking poorly about a child. Or attacking the child’s mom because of the child’s behavior. This mom stuff? Incredibly incredibly difficult. Instead of mom’s judging and confronting, we should be encouraging and loving. We should be teaching that momma anything that would improve behaviors and bonding. We shouldn’t be telling mom’s that their child isn’t going to have friends, and is going to get into a lot of trouble…. WE should be speaking life into that mamma and her baby, praying over them, praying for God’s guidance throughout the lifetime. We should be encouraging her, offering her our help, offering her a hug and a compliment or encouraging word. This mom stuff? It is SO HARD. The last thing we need is the judgement of another mother. Mommas? Help a momma out. Don’t judge the beautiful gift of children that God has given her. If her child is loud and full of energy? Run around outside and get them tired. If her child is introverted and doesn’t interact the way others do? Ask her how to reach her child and spend some time with that kiddo. If her child is sick and has lots of medical stuff going on? Go to appointments, learn about her child’s diagnosis offer her a break? If her child is a mess maker all day long? Help her clean……
We have the power to encourage or destroy our children, we have the power to help them embrace the incredible human beings that God has created them to be. We have the power to literally change the world for the rest of their lives.
Use your words to speak life into each family regardless of whether their child is the same or different from your children….. No matter what your expectations are, or what the worlds expectaions are….. KNOW that your child/ren are amazing miracles that God has created, that He has created him/her for an incredible purpose, regardless of what the world says. And you know what Momma? YOU ARE DOING AN INCREDIBLE JOB!
Beautifully Blessed 